Do nice girls finish fat?

That's the question I pondered all day.......

Even though I learned everything from how to get rid of a pimple overnight (apply Pepto Bismal to it) to how Klohe Kardashian shed 20 pounds, this is what lingers in my mind as I sit and stare out at the sun setting over the bay......


Here at the beach, I am catching up on my reading. At the moment--my day consists of pouring through my stacks of magazines, applying SPF 30 at consistent intervals and ordering the drink of the day from the wait staff that pass by (also at consistent intervals). It's become astonishingly clear to me that what I am no longer spending on big lunches, fried-food-filled happy hours and 7 course dinners, I am spending on magazines. After lugging a bag filled with them--that must weigh close to 20 pounds--down to the Beach Club, I've come to the conclusion that I'm a magazineaholic. And, my daughter happens to suffer from the same affliction. While everyone lounged on their beach chairs reading beachy novels, Toni and I leafed through our treasure trove of mags. And, there amongst all the tips and gossip, I came upon a brief little snippet on page 150 of Ladies Home Journal that asked:
-Do you go way out of your way to be helpful?
-Are you also a chronic overeater?
Yes and yes.
It seems as though they could be connected--so says therapist Karen R. Koenig, author of Nice Girls Finish Fat.
Her rationale is this--if you are nice to the extreme then you always put yourself last. Thus, always doing what others want and trying to fix their problems. She goes on to say that whether you are conscious of it or not, this may set you up for feeling cheated and could drive you to overeat. Feeding yourself may become the only form of self-care you practice.
Whoa.
Waitress....I need another.....
Geez, I wish I would have spent more time reading about the Pepto Bismal pimple miracle cure....
That was clearly some heavy stuff to lay on a girl who is just trying to forget about life for awhile.

But, it got me to thinking about how this pretains to me and my Lapband. You see, my Lapband prevents me from being a chronic overeater. So, essentially, I'm still a chronic overeater but I can't really overeat--because of my Lapband. Which is a mighty good thing. And, from what I can figure out---I'm just one of those people who happens to enjoy taking care of others and being nice. Well, I don't enjoy it all the time. It's just who I am. What does this all mean?

I guess I could read the book. But, I don't do deep books at the beach......
So, I won't be figuring this out any time soon.
Tomorrow I plan to spend the entire day with my decorating magazines.....