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Thursday, February 19, 2015

WHY AM I ALL ALONE????

Why am I the only woman who refused to read Fifty Shades of Grey and will DEFINITELY NOT to seeing the movie????





There is not a prude bone in my body. 
Not a one.
Go ahead.....give it a whirl....test me out....you will see....this girl never was nor will I ever be a prude.   FUCK NO!
I am all for the women exploring their sexuality through consent....regardless of the sanctity of the relationship.  And, I am about as ga-ga as the next girl when it comes to racey, sexy-hot  stuff.  Show me a naked,  fabulous looking man and I'm gonna peek....and maybe even stare.  Hot and steamy stuff give me quite the blush.  And, let's not get me started on steamy sex scenes....
Okay, okay....I better stop here before I have a hot flash....
Yes, I know....that might be too much information for you but I just figured I'd get the record straight just in case you think that I am repulsed by the story that's been taking the world by storm because I am a prudish naive, straight-laced, super conservative,  chastity-belt wearing 56 year old woman.
Because you know I am not.  Anyway, a chastity- belt would make me look fat....
Those who swoon over the very mention of Christian Grey and the movie itself consider my views on the topic as idiotic.  Or, as one my wonderful, smart, beloved friends said...."Judi, it's just a fun, fantasy  movie..plain and simple...."

Um....
 

This is NOT my FANTASY!  This is NOT my kind of FUN!

Why is it that my own daughter and my own sister and many of my own friends (like the one I mentioned above) can't wait to see the movie?  Why do they consider it a Romance Movie?
And why do I decide to choose this moment and this movie to dig my heels into the sand and say NO, NO, NO.  I mean after all, I really am not a radical person when it comes to most causes.  Sure, there are a few.  Well, maybe a few more.  But, I don't get all postal about them.  But, this one?  Well, this one just makes me a little crazy.  Yes, I admit that part of the problem is that I don't like to be the one in a million person who feels this way!  It's not fun being alone on a topic that is setting the female population all a flutter. I like to be aligned with other women and their feelings and beliefs.  I want to support other women and what they love and care about!!!  I really, really do....
 And....OMG....I really can't understand the acceptance that my own loved ones have for this move.  Haven't I taught them well?  Haven't I been a good influence on them?  What are they thinking?  Where have I gone wrong?



Here's the deal--- I do not....nor will I ever.....support the glamorization and romanticism of emotional and/ or physical abuse.  I will not support the objectification of women or the notion that belittlement and entrapment  are forms of  romance and love.  
And, I will never, ever understand how anyone else can either.

I am not going to see this movie.
It does not deserve my money or my time.  
Sure, I will miss the popcorn.
But, that's okay.
 
 

 

5 comments:

Grandma Bonnie said...

wow. I 100% agree with your assessment. I have no desire to see this movie and by consent send a message that this treatment of women is ok.

Anonymous said...

I agree with you totally - I don't see anything "romantic" about this whole thing. I read enough of the book to know that it was turning me off, not on and wasn't worth my time. And definitely don't want to waste one of my few movies a year on this one.

Beth Ann said...

You are not alone at all. I feel the same way and I know a lot of people do. I'm all for whatever two consenting adults want to do in (or out of for that matter) bed, but no consent? Not romantic. Not glamorous.

Tracey@bariatricfoodforlife.com said...

I am a specialist in women's healthcare and have spent 30 years trying to protect women from this type of abuse/assault and I agree with you. Intimate partner ABUSE is wrong. I'm sorry but Miss Steele is a 21 year old virgin and a victim of an abusive control freak, not a consenting adult.

FitBy40 said...

I haven't read the book and have no desire to see the movie. I agree with you wholeheartedly.